“To achieve great things, two things are needed; a plan, and not quite enough time.” Leonard Bernstein
It’s very important to me to mark the ten-year milestone of our marriage. After all, we ALMOST made it. It felt longer than ten years anyway, so I think we deserve the credit. (For some reason, a ten year anniversary was something I used to look forward to and make lavish imaginary plans around.)
So instead of a proper memorial this weekend, I’m having an ‘anniversary party’/memorial with family and a few close friends. This is for me. This is for us. We’ll celebrate the life of our Vernon as we celebrate our very full decade of marriage.
We will also have a proper memorial service for Vernon the following Sunday. I’m looking forward to that one just as much. But this will have the space to be open to anyone who would like to pay their respects to Vernon. This is for him. I’m starting to plan the music and talk to the staff at the church about what comes next. I have never planned a funeral before, and fortunately, I haven’t attended many of them, so I don’t know what to expect yet. But I know it will be beautiful…and full of love.
All are invited. 🙂
MEMORIAL FOR VERNON ADAMS (1967-2016)
Sunday, September 11th, 1:30pm
Heritage Christian Fellowship
190 Avenida La Pata, San Clemente, CA 92673
Reception to follow.
In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to SansOxygen.
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I am so glad you posted something today; I wasn’t sure if you would feel up to it, or want to, but it is wonderful that you chose to celebrate the day. The ‘celebration’ you have planned for this weekend will no doubt also be wonderful – celebrating your life together for the last ten years. I am sure it will be a good part of the healing process for you and the children.
I love the photograph too; Vernon looks happy and if you ignore the items strapped to his arm, he just looks like he’s enjoying a moment in the sunshine and could be anywhere.
that was the best picture he ever took, I think. We had finally got him off the Ativan that had been destroying him and onto CBD oils (which fortunately are legal in the state of California…sadly, not everywhere) We were seeing things coming around. This was taken a year ago. I love this picture so much!
Yes, what a beautiful photo of Vernon ( the comments above -I echo)
And your beautiful wedding photo-
Tears of joy and sadness… Love love you two xo
Allison,
Glad that you are doing this as it should be done. The celebration of 10 years is good for you and a lot of people around you and the children.
Wish we could be there next Sunday for his Memorial service. It will be beautiful and well received.
Love and Hugs,
Becky
What a wonderful way to celebrate your love with an anniversary party!
I so wish I lived closer to attend Vernon’s memorial service. May God surround you with a hedge of peace as you plan these events.
Allison, this is very important that you celebrate your wedding anniversary with your family and close friends. Just because Vernon is not physically with you anymore, doesn’t mean you will not remember one of the most important days in your lives. Share the time with laughter and tears and may our Lord give you, Justine and Maki special Grace and put you “under His Wings”. We prayed for you all in our prayer meeting at church this afternoon. Hugs and prayers, Ingrid