― Marie Kondō
Moving the bikes out of the garage was a start, but there is still more to do in order to create the space I need for a clear mind in the next season. This has taken a long time—years, actually—but I have to run with the organizing momentum of springtime when I have it, as it usually doesn’t last long. Maki had promised to help me move things around on Saturday, but I had no idea how much I would actually need him.
We decided to fill the van with anything we could get rid of and take it to the dump. I knew there were a few more boxes of Vernon’s on the higher shelves that hadn’t been looked at since we moved to the house over three years ago, and I knew there were some hazardous waste materials long-needing disposal. Just in dragging the first boxes out, I could see that I’d have to sift through layers of unknown contents. It first I was looking at the leftover bike gear in the corner: a couple of forks and handlebars, some perfectly new-looking cycling shoes for the thrift store, the helmets.
The helmets were the hardest to decide over. I wouldn’t say they “sparked joy,” but there were a couple of bike helmets that could be useful in the future. And then there were the motor helmets. I’ve paused over these elegant orbs often, but haven’t been able to get rid of them either. There is something romantic about them: instead of making me angry, they remind me of Vernon’s European dreams.
The biggest and highest box was opened last. It took both of us to get it down to the workbench. This, it turned out, was a box full of other boxes, each filled with layers of shop tools, bike chains, nuts, and bolts. All these things in one place brought back memories to both of us as we began to dig through them: how he’d loved to drive Maki up to the auto or bike shop to replace a missing tool (there were about 15 tiny screwdrivers in the mix) and how he’d spent hours in the garage (or at our first place, in the kitchen) tinkering over something, fixing something. The joy was in the time doing it. I suppose. Typically, it’s the job of the creative to create problems to solve.
Maki found some discarded parts of the Vespa…all we’ve seen of it since, so this was a surprise. Now we were on the hunt for treasure, understanding our limitations: we wouldn’t keep anything that wasn’t useful or memorable. Maki found a bag of thumb drives and small attachments. “I’ve been needing one of these for my amp!” he exclaimed. Then we uncovered another of Vernon’s font sketchbooks. That was the most special of treasures. I thought we’d found them all!
But the jackpot was hit in the very last corner, of course, once all the other boxes has been lifted. In a closed cardboard box deep within the big box was a stash of old wooden tools that he’d collected over the years in England. He’d worked for a time as a craftsman/wood-worker/furniture restorer. My dad remembers helping him pack it up before we moved here, another time that we were having to box and throw out tinkering bits from the shed. He’s asked about these tools a few times and we just shrug: “I I have no idea where they are…or if we even still have them.” So opening hat box brought back a different level of memories to us, going further back to England. I am grateful Maki was with me because it was too much to witness alone…and truthfully, we are the only ones that lived with him those years…that can remember and make sense of these things. It validates our shared past to remember together.
And then…when we got the car as full as we could, we went to the dump and let everything except a few special treasures go. I don’t know how many more rounds of this sort of thing we have left (not many.) But it was time because it happened.
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This really touched me……and reminded me of my own journey that began 18 years ago (on April 17)……it really is a journey of sorts. I love the word Treasures…..I have cleaned the garage many times over these 18 yrs. I remember doing it with my daughters together and finding the maps from Viet Nam…… and then with my brother Rick about 8 yrs ago. I had sort of just made a little space in the garage for me, working around Jim’s domain. He loved his garage, worked in it almost daily, making birdhouses, fixing things, etc. Rick knew things I would never use, and there were lots of “stuff” I could let go of easily……..But then we’d come across something that triggered a precious memory, and I’d sort of had a look on my face that said to him “I think we’ve done enough today”. He has been so kind and compassionate . …definitely needed someone to be with me. And yet there have been those “treasures” I’ve enjoyed being alone to reminisce about. and I end this with a big lump in my throat! <3
Thank you Judy! I thought this would probably be a universal story…the constant battle of letting go…and also reliving memories. It’s amazing how we are so attached to the love in our life…even if that is symbolized by THINGS. We humans are just love machines, I guess. Loved seeing you this morning, Treasure.
Dear Allison, Bless you for having the courage and
energy to “Face the Garage” clearing. I know it
is not easy, so glad Maki was willing to help you,
and just “be with you.”
Love, Barbara M
Thanks, Barbara! It was a good day in the end..I have shed more than a couple tears over the course of the week, but it’s time again, clearly!
Allison,
So glad that you went thru the garage with Maki because that will make him feel like he is more the man of the house. And finding treasures like the wooden tools that Vernon brought from England. And it is Spring time when we want to clean out and we washed the windows and washed the curtains. Bill takes care of our garage and it all has to be down do thru the years.
Good for Maki and you for getting into it and getting everything taken to the dump.
Becky
you may be right, Becky! He did help me the next day (without being nagged) by putting together an IKEA desk for me. Meant the world. I like to think he may have picked up on some of his dad’s heritage in our day in the garage. 🙂